Life Right Now, Random Thoughts

Life Update – #truthfultuesday

“Kids make life the best kind of busy” ~ Anonymous

I haven’t posted a new blog in quite a while. No, I’m still alive and well. And so is my family. Even though my first semester exams have finished, life’s still been busy. You’d think there’ll be so much more time available, but catching up on all sides of life is quite needed after finishing a series of five exams.

So what have we been up to, you may ask? Well, we’ve been fighting some mean, green and just plain awful sinus infections. That said, a lot of rest and TLC was needed. It was our third round of sinus infections for the year, with Caitlin just recovering from a cold a week after her sinus infection cleared up. Crazy, I tell you! Sometimes I pray that she becomes a doctor one day in order for me to at least feel that with all the doctor and pharmacy bills we’ve somehow contributed to her future career path. Haha!

Don’t get me wrong, she used to get sick a lot more, but as she grows older it seems to get ‘easier’ – if that makes any sense? Less paediatrician visits, less hospital submissions.

Apart from fighting the winter’s nasty cold and its friends, we’ve been enjoying some much-needed family time. I’ve realised that my little girl is growing up so incredibly fast that some days it feels like I’m missing half of her life, milestones and tiny moments (you can probably smell the #momguilt a mile away, right?). I’ve learned to take it a bit easier on her and though it may mean that she’s not in bed by 8pm, it also means that my child is getting her daily dose of love, affection and attention.

Our kids change our lives for the better. And though it may be challenging some days with you feeling like you just want to crawl into bed and sleep for days. I would not exchange this journey we’re on for anything in the world, dark under-eye circles and all!

So here we go, with the thought of sharing more blog posts in the coming weeks as we return from our hibernation and hope to engage a bit more with you all as we start to approach the fun, upcoming months of Spring and Summer! For now, I’m quite enjoying the winter weather and the indoor adventures it brings. 🙂

C xx

 

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Encouragement, Handy Tools & Advice, Random Thoughts

Never lose sight of who you really are… trust in yourself

wom·an·hood
ˈwo͝omənˌho͝od/
noun
  1. the state or condition of being a woman.

What seems to be missing from the above is the mention of ‘superhuman with the ability to play multiple roles at the same time’ – don’t you think?

Somehow in the midst of being everything to everyone, we reach a point where we start to lose sight of who we really are. We allow the opinions of others affect us and we give in to the pressure of the feeling that we’re ‘not good enough’. As women, we put ourselves through numerous attempts of changing ourselves, ‘making ourselves better’ with the hope of feeling better about ourselves and accomplishing acceptance amongst others.

Throughout life, you’re surrounded by others guiding you through it all, ideally providing you with the necessary life skills to keep you strong against all the ‘bad’ outside there in the real world. Sometimes, you find yourself surrounded by people that aren’t in it for the enrichment of life, but rather for personal gain. A matter of ‘what can I get out of this relationship’? These people add even more pressure to our lives on top of what we already experience as women.

You must be sexy, you must be smart, you must be nice… things that don’t add value to life or your worth as a woman. You also have to be a wife, a mother, a sister, a daughter, a friend, an employee – each role with sub-roles that you have to fulfill. You, as a woman have to be so many things to so many people! Are you relating to what I’m saying right now; nodding your head thinking ‘yes, she gets me?!’

I think it’s due to the fact that most woman, especially when going through the dual journey of motherhood and womanhood, find themselves in this particular situation like the one that I’ve just described. You got to deal with all this pressure, sometimes hearing that ‘you’re not good enough’. Meanwhile, all you want to do is gain acceptance for you – just that, being your true self. That in itself is being something great, isn’t it?! It completely shatters you as a woman, as a human, when your self-worth, your self-esteem gets knocked down as you get consumed by the pressure and the obsession of trying to be SuperWoman.

Wouldn’t it be the most tragic tale ever written if the treasure of a human being that you really are and the talent that you possess was buried under the mountain of opinions and expectations of others?

“You’re a bad mother. You’re a terrible wife. You’re an awful friend.” You’re just plain, no darn good if you try and do anything whatsoever that makes you happy. Sound familiar? Those thoughts have run through my mind before… “Don’t you dare do something for yourself, forget to do the washing or take your eyes of your children for one second! You better be there… all… the… time.” That’s the messaging that mothers get. Did you know that this particular message has the power, the ability to drive someone totally insane whilst she tries to be everything and do everything?!

The most important skill that you as a woman can have in protecting yourself against losing sight of who you really are and keeping your happiness is to learn to trust in yourself. Stop hating yourself for everything that you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything you already are. You have the right to be happy!

As a fellow woman, mom, wife, daughter, sister, friend and so on – I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I’ve never tried to make myself better by giving in; giving into the pressure of it all, because I have. Sometimes I still do, even if it’s just to keep the peace momentarily. We’re only human and it will happen occasionally. What I’m saying is don’t let it consume you.

Never underestimate the investment you make in yourself. You have the right to be happy in life and in yourself. It is what fuels you from the inside. Your happiness in yourself is what sets the tone for every relationship you have in this world. The more you work on it, the better life will become. Don’t lose your way, lose sight of your true self and what makes you happy.

Be wise, learn from your past mistakes, take better care of yourself and ensure that you do what makes you happy. That gives you the ability to take care of others at the capacity that is required in life as a woman and all the numerous roles that we play on a daily basis.

Surround yourself with people you can grow with and avoid the people who are only in it for personal gain. Motherhood… womanhood… it’s considered a tribe. The most important thing we must remember is that we can learn from one another and support one another.

Stay true to yourself. Trust yourself. Never lose sight of who you really are. And know, that others, your fellow tribe members and your true people will always have your back.

Much love,
Chantelle