A few weeks ago a very good friend of mine announced that one of her very childhood friends is expecting a baby. This friend is also one of her bridesmaids and the pregnancy was unplanned.
Now, as a bride-to-be you can imagine the mixture of emotions going through her. She’s ecstatic for her friend and at the same time also very emotional about the fact that it is the second of her four bridesmaids that will either be highly pregnant or breastfeeding a newborn baby at the wedding. For any bride, it can feel like the very end of the world as this would mean no high heels, jumping in pictures and all the other wedding trends currently seen all over the bridal scenes.
Now, whilst she’s telling me all of this… here’s me 100% understanding what she’s saying and feeling. But then the other side of me (the mom side, i guess?) knew exactly what her friend is currently going through – a whole different mix of emotions! Joy, fear, self-doubt, uneasiness – the list goes on!
This whole conversation brought up so many memories and emotions for me. A lot of you might not know, but can probably gather that Caitlin (our 3-year-old daughter) was also an unplanned pregancy.
I remember it like it was yesterday! I was a wreck completely paranoid and afraid! No way I was ready to be a mom yet?! We planned on waiting a few more years in order to be more financially prepared. But God had other plans 🙂 When I had to break the news to The Husband, I feared for the worst (as I was completely scared out of my wits) but he was over the moon with pure joy of the great news!
I think it was only around month 6 when my feelings settled and I felt more at ease with the fact that I was going to be a mommy.
Caitlin’s birth was an extraordinary experience. I recall as I held our little bundle of joy alone in my room, thinking to myself – ‘how on earth am I going to keep you safe from all the bad in this world and be a good mom to you?’
So far parenthood has truly been a memorable ride with ups and downs and curveballs every now and then. But I would not have had it any differently. Yes, it tests the little patience that I do have and yes, I don’t have that much time for myself or even with The Husband, but at the rate that Caitlin’s growing now, we’ll be having more time for ourselves sooner than we think!
So, what was I getting at? Oh, yeah! Just because it’s an unplanned pregnancy,doesn’t mean that that little baby isn’t loved. Most of the unplanned journeys we take end up being the most memorable and cherished ones!
FYI – my friend got over her bridal emotions and couldn’t be happier for her childhood friend/bridesmaid!
Share with me: was your prenancy unplanned? If so, how did you handle it?
Much love, Chantelle